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Mrs.Levitt · #1 01-11-2006, 02:21 AM

my maid of honor is great, love her to death. she has a few tattoos..so do I so nothing against that. hers are mostly on her arms which arent my thing but thats cool. Her looks and body isnt why I chose her. well, she just text messaged me (she lives out of state) with a pic of the tattoo shes getting right now. A half sleeve. covers her shoulder and down to her elbow. FH is trippin! He's saying that our picture perfect "romantic" look is done for, she may be in a gorgeous dress but now she will look more ghetto than ever.

I see what he's saying but he's being way to harsh. Yes she doesnt look as feminine as he might want her to but shes our friend and Im not gonna let this ruin our day. pretty much all her tattoos are going to stick out but yes this one is major. Hope he cools down soon, he's a little wound up right now. I think he has this picture of the perfect look and the perfect pictures and now all he sees in his head is this giant dragon on half her arm.

cru5h · #2 01-11-2006, 02:26 AM

aww LOL. Try to get him to see that your picture-perfect image has your friends as they are. The real pictures will certainly be a conversation piece won't they?

It's really cool that you're so accepting of her.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #3 01-11-2006, 02:30 AM

Damn, I guess August is too hot to force her into long sleeves. Would you feel comfortable picking out a dress with a shawl and ask her to please wear the shawl for the ceremony and posed pictures, and then at the reception her tattoos won't matter so much?

ljeagle · #4 01-11-2006, 02:34 AM

I agree with MTGH maybe u could find a shawl to cover the tattoos up for the wedding. My BM wants to get a tattoos on her arm but she promised she would wait till after the wedding...

Mrs.Levitt · #5 01-11-2006, 02:38 AM

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Originally Posted by ljeagle

My BM wants to get a tattoos on her arm but she promised she would wait till after the wedding...

yeah a heads up would have been nice. atleast a discussion i guess

Kim&Bob2004 · #6 01-11-2006, 02:42 AM

or maybe some sort of stage makeup would cover it up????? I can see your FH's concerns. But then how many people will be looking at her?

sparklesweetie · #7 01-11-2006, 02:43 AM

One of my BM has several, but none that are quite that large. The most noticeable one will be the one on her back (between her shoulders) but that won't show in the pictures, so I'm not worried about it.
I agree, it would have been nice for her to at least tell you about it. But, since she didn't, it's cool that you aren't going a-wall over it. Good luck.

Complicated Woman · #8 01-11-2006, 04:26 AM

I'm sure it will still look fine and like cru5h says, the picture perfect wedding includes your friends being who they are! It would have been nice for her to mention it to you, although (as I'm sure you know) people can be really territorial and defensive about their tats, so she might be upset if you ask her to cover it up. Hope it all works out in the end, as I'm sure it will.

munchkin · #9 01-11-2006, 06:32 AM

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people can be really territorial and defensive about their tats

lol, yes, like me!
Anyway, on topic. Focus Kerry focus.....I agree with the shawl idea, but if she doesn't want that then I say just let her be. She is your friend, and you love her. You didn't choose her for your wedding party because of what she looks like; you chose her because she is your friend.

Cirig · #10 01-11-2006, 12:57 PM

I suggest what MTGH says. There are some beautiful dresses that come with a shawl-like counter part.

http://www.davidsbridal.com/mother_o...9&prodgroup=59

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesma...&prodgroup=110

Maybe you can settle on this with FH? Good luck!

wynelle · #11 01-11-2006, 01:37 PM

The two examples Ciriq linked to from Davids are both beautiful dresses, and the little bolero jackets are great. Similar jackets can be made from lace, or from the same fabric as other bridesmaids gowns.

The perspective from an "older" woman--- a "sleeve" tattoo on a bridesmaid will stick out, and people will be looking at it instead of the bride, and unless it is on the left arm, it *will* stand out in all the photographs. Think about all the wedding photographs you have seen. A line of bridesmaids in sleeveles or strapless or even short sleeved dressed, and in the midst of flowing, blending color, someone has a big patch of non-bridal colors. Like the TV commercials for "The color of" how that spot of color sticks out, taking away from the sameness of the other colors.

Many older people, even many mainstream younger people aren't comfortble with visible tattoos on women. And there is a big difference between a little ankle circlet, or a Celtic Knot on your back--- and a sleeve. Many tattoo artists don't encourage anythying too visible for women or for professionals. Yes, there are people who will not hire people with large visible tattoos if those people/tattoos are going to be in the public eye. Is it fair? Probably not. Does it happen? You betcha!

What are you going to do? That's just up to you. It is *your* day and you are entitled to have the attention focussed on you, and not have eyes shifting to the "sleeve" and people talking about "that bridesmaid." Could she put off having it done until after the wedding? Could you have a lacy bolero or shawl made? Have you talked to your parents just to get a feel for how people of that generation may feel/think about it and the church?

Mrs.Levitt · #12 01-11-2006, 01:41 PM

The shawl or little jacket idea is nice. but its in august outside so i dont know how well the jacket would work. might be hot. worst part is that the tatt is on her right arm. the arm in every picture!

Cirig · #13 01-11-2006, 02:40 PM

That stinks- but you *could* ask her to have the jacket/ shawl during the ceremony & pictures. At the reception she could have it off.

And let her know that you will forever be in her debt! When she's at the party she'll of forgotten all about the shawl!

TheaterDiva1 · #14 01-11-2006, 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Kim&Bob2004

or maybe some sort of stage makeup would cover it up????? I can see your FH's concerns. But then how many people will be looking at her?

Yeah - this has come up before in this forum. People mentioned a type of cover-up makeup (I forget the name) made for covering tatoos. I'd do that route. A shawl would be nice, but I'm sure she won't be wearing it for the entire reception or anything.

Complicated Woman · #15 01-11-2006, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by munchkin

lol, yes, like me!

LOL, munchkin! \m/ I totally am, too.

What if you got a dress with longer t-shirt length sleeves? That would cover a good portion of the tat without getting terribly hot.

Also, Davids Bridal just got this one:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesma...&prodgroup=138 (Sorry, tried to put the pic, but photobucket is being funky, will try again later.)

It really is a warm weather dress, and the little shrug is sheer and light, so her tats will be obscured for pics but again, she won't be sweltering.

As an aside, I LOVE this dress. If we were planning on a warm weather wedding, I would absolutely want this one for my BMs.

bebe · #16 01-11-2006, 04:10 PM

I think asking her to cover her tats with makeup would probably be a problem, especially a sleeve - that's a lot of area to cover, and it would be likely to rub off everywhere. I think a sheer wrap to be worn during the ceremony and for formal pictures is your best bet. Also, if all the girls wear them, you avoid singling out your friend with the tattoos and upsetting her. I ordered this wrap for my girls, it was nice and long. They draped it over their arms/shoulders and tied them behind their back at the waist and they stayed put nicely. It covered from shoulder to elbow with fabric to spare. They are sheer, so you will still be able to see the tats through the fabric a bit, but it will tone them down and not be the center of attention. The wraps come in all kind of other colors as well. The customer service was great, I had the wraps within a few days and they were of very good quality.

http://www.sweetsuzy.com/IBS/SimpleC...-id/55181.html

Mrs.Levitt · #17 01-11-2006, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Complicated Woman

What if you got a dress with longer t-shirt length sleeves? That would cover a good portion of the tat without getting terribly hot.

Also, Davids Bridal just got this one:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesma...&prodgroup=138

I love that dress. To bad it doesn't come in red

I bet I could find a sheer thing like that in red or black though. Not to hot, and doesn't make her look old

Jennifer · #18 01-11-2006, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Cirig

I suggest what MTGH says. There are some beautiful dresses that come with a shawl-like counter part.

http://www.davidsbridal.com/mother_o...9&prodgroup=59

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesma...&prodgroup=110

Maybe you can settle on this with FH? Good luck!

My MIL is making that first dress to wear at our wedding. I love it!

wembley · #19 01-11-2006, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Complicated Woman

Also, Davids Bridal just got this one:
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesma...&prodgroup=138 (Sorry, tried to put the pic, but photobucket is being funky, will try again later.)

It really is a warm weather dress, and the little shrug is sheer and light, so her tats will be obscured for pics but again, she won't be sweltering.

As an aside, I LOVE this dress. If we were planning on a warm weather wedding, I would absolutely want this one for my BMs.

I love that shrug! I wish you could just buy the shrug part. Now I want to find something like that. As anyone seen a separate shrug that is sheer like that? I like that's it's a shrug over a shawl. I think shawls can be more cumbersome than good.

bebe · #20 01-11-2006, 06:02 PM

You can tie a shawl so that it looks like that shrug:

Kim&Bob2004 · #21 01-11-2006, 06:16 PM

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You can tie a shawl so that it looks like that shrug:

Was this your wedding??? Wonderful idea!

ljeagle · #22 01-11-2006, 06:33 PM

I love that ideal I might end up doing that besides the straps on the dress. I think it could work for u (almost) if u do want to cover her arms...

Complicated Woman · #23 01-11-2006, 06:35 PM

Bebe, that looks so great!

bebe · #24 01-11-2006, 08:40 PM

Thanks! Yep, that was my wedding. I am still in the process of moving all of my photos on to my new computer (Christmas present from hubby) so I can finally get an online album up to share photos. I asked my sister Shannon (the blonde furthest to the right) to email me a pic so I could post it here to show the shawl/shrug thing. In my case, the shawl was mostly for the benefit of Shannon and Alicia (the girl on the far left) who both had WLS and dropped over 100 lbs each. They wanted to cover their arms. It was also October in North Lake Tahoe, so a bit chilly. The wraps were also good for Rick's sister Tina (in the middle) who wasn't totally comfortable with strapless but she didn't want to add the optional straps. It worked out for everyone!

555Ann555 · #25 01-12-2006, 03:45 AM

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Originally Posted by bebe

Thanks! Yep, that was my wedding. I am still in the process of moving all of my photos on to my new computer (Christmas present from hubby) so I can finally get an online album up to share photos.

Bebe I was honestly just about to call out to you about your pics! I've been waiting patiently for months and all I've seen were the ones your BIL took

and those were lovely but I want to see more! I was starting to wonder if I missed them on one of the occasional days I don't make it on here!

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I can see your FH's concerns. But then how many people will be looking at her?

Ummm I would be! Even if it was just to admire it or try to make out the pattern it would definately draw my attention away from the bride

Sorry to kind of hijack the post there!