Alan and I met about 6 years ago. Unbenownst to me he had just finalized his divorce. (after about a 2 year seperation)
At the time I was dating someone, but for some strange reason (fate) we exchanged email addresses.
About 6 months later and having been single for a few months I emailed him. He was in a relationship. Then about 3 months later he emails me.... we were both finally single.
We emailed each other night and day for about 3 months, then started calling each other and talking for 6-8 hours a night. (we lived about 2hrs away from each other)
My cautious guy took his time asking me out. Since our 1st official date he we have been as inseperable as possible with crazy CA traffic, custody scheduales, work and schooling.
About 2 years into our relationship we moved in together, bought a house, and adopted 2 dogs. 3 years into our relationship I quit my job to stay at home with his (our) 3 kids (all girls) whom we have 50/50 custody of. This also allowed him to go back to school F/T. (so he works F/T and goes to school F/T)
It has always been our joke that we would keep each other in our lives "for a bit" (this will be relavent later on)
Alan took a new position at work last June and it requires him to travel. He usually brings us all home a little something. In late Nov. he had to go to San Jose on a bus. trip. He came home with gifts for each of the girls and even one for my mother; but nothing for me... I have been harrassing him ever since.
My family is pretty close knit and we do a huge family get together in Dec.
We weren't sure we were going to make it, due to 2 of the girls being sick all week and me catching it after caring for them
Alan played it all off really well, never making a big deal about it, but knowing I really wanted to see everyone!!!
Anyway we ended up getting to go (though I was still feeling pretty crummy) and after a fun funky gift exchange my family does Alan sits forward and starts talking about "one more gift". (I remember looking at him like he was crazy, and that he just didn't understand the rules to the game) He then proceeds to tell everyone that he lied to me
and some stuff about how he couldn't have the great life he has and do the stuff he does without me as his partner ect... (we have it on tape, which is the ONLY reason I kinda know what he said) Then he pulls out a box and tells me that when he was in San Jose, he did get me a gift and asks me to be his wife. OMG.... the picks of me at this moment are so awful, I am all weepy and stuff. The girls threw themselves at us and I sat there in happy shock.
He picked out a beautiful eternity band that now is the **new joke** (guess you're keeping me around for an eternity)
We have not set a date, and are really torn due to many things. We would love to be married soon, but don't want to rush. We really want a special day for US about US and to be what WE want.
Custody issues are playing a small part in our not having set a date.
At this point we are thinking fall 2008, much everyones dismay. Alan will be through with school (he goes full time year round) and we can have time to actually enjoy the wedding and a loooong honeymoon afterwards
We are planning to have our ceremony and vows written and ironed out this year, then next year I will start on everything else. (After my brothers wedding Spring of 2007)
So by the time we actually make it official we will have been together almost 8 years.
Which seems to bother everyone in my family, but not us.
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