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Marge129 · #1 01-10-2006, 12:19 AM

This nesting thing has to stop. Not only am I redecorating EVERY room in my house, it has me wanting to plan a wedding for who knows when.

Anyway... Jerry and I had a long talk last week... and he actually listened. This past weekend was WONDERFUL and if we have more weekends like it, I will have NO issues with marrying him. When we get married is another story... I'm thinking a possible date of July, August, September, or October (if things continue to go well).

That got me to thinking... how should Jerry and I get married?

*We've both had the big, entire family wedding... so we don't want that.
*We want something more special than going just to the court house.
*We have literally NO money to spend.
*We'll have an infant and a 9 year old tagging along, so going away is next to impossible... especially if we want to go out for a nice dinner or something to celebrate. I can't see either child sitting through a dinner so we can enjoy ourselves.

I have this need to have a pretty dress that will make him go

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Ideas?

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #2 01-10-2006, 12:51 AM

What about having a wedding at the house with just the closest family and friends? Doesn't 90% of sitcom weddings involve the couple getting married in the living room with the bride coming down the stairs? Ok, they're too cheap to build another set!

But it seems like a nice sentiment.

Marge129 · #3 01-10-2006, 12:57 AM

Wouldn't work at my house. #1 no stairs. #2 no place pretty to have a wedding inside.

BUT! You did give me an idea! We DO have a nice backyard! That would work. Then maybe we'll have a small cake/punch reception at the house... and Jerry and I can go out to a fancy dinner or something. I know my Mom or his Mom would be willing to babysit so Jerry and I could do something extra special like that. We both really want to go back to the place we were engaged at for our wedding night dinner. But, it was $150 for the two of us so that's all we can afford to take! Would that be really rude?

sparklesweetie · #4 01-10-2006, 01:11 AM

If you're having a cake and punch reception, I don't think that'd be rude. Hell, I don't think it'd be rude even if you didn't have the cake and punch. And I vote myself your shopping partner, and I volunteer to babysit on your wedding night if you allow me to take you out for a girls' night.

Lol. Sounds like a fine plan to me.

Oh, and you wanna do it in August before I have to go back to hel....I mean, work.

hehe

maroki13 · #5 01-10-2006, 01:14 AM

*chanting* August 12, August 12, August 12, August 12 ....

I don't think it would be rude at all to have cake and punch and then have a dinner out for just you and Jerry. It is your wedding day...do what you want!!!

feb-bride · #6 01-10-2006, 01:16 AM

I think having the wedding in your nice backyard is a good idea. And no - it's not rude if the two of you go out to dinner alone after the cake-and-punch reception.

deputysgurl · #7 01-10-2006, 01:23 AM

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Originally Posted by feb-bride

I think having the wedding in your nice backyard is a good idea. And no - it's not rude if the two of you go out to dinner alone after the cake-and-punch reception.

I completely agree. I think having a backyard wedding would be awesome.

Complicated Woman · #8 01-10-2006, 01:28 AM

Backyard wedding sounds lovely, and I agree with the others that it's definitely not rude to go out to dinner afterward just the two of you.

Marge129 · #9 01-10-2006, 01:32 AM

YAY! Now we just have to set a date.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #10 01-10-2006, 01:38 AM

Two thumbs up in approval!

Marge129 · #11 01-10-2006, 02:11 AM

Must lose enough weight to fit in:

Now watch... I'm going to lose the weight... buy the dress... and realize it looks like crap on my body style. I've been in love with that dress for MONTHS now.

TheaterDiva1 · #12 01-10-2006, 02:21 AM

I think that's a great idea! (backyard wedding/reception) Just make sure and Jery have some time alone tigether just to relax and enjoy each other!

I also like that dress!

Marge129 · #13 01-10-2006, 02:43 AM

Grrrrrrrrr....... just told my idea to Jerry. He said he'd rather get married at the court house than in our back yard. But yet he doesn't want to get married at the courthouse either.

Stupid men.

Back to square 1.

whiddle · #14 01-10-2006, 03:10 AM

What about a local park? I know some couple's do that around here in early spring. I am not sure about your weather situation but the weather can't be bad in August (How about the 6th

Or maybe on the shores of one of the Great Lakes? Isn't lake Eerie near you?

What about this place? It says they have 25 facilities that are FREE to the public.
http://www.metroparks.org/index.html

or

at a hotel? The Holiday Inn by me lets you rent their banquet room for $150.00 and you can bring all the food yourself. They also have a beautiful gazebo area where you can be married for free! http://www.ichotelsgroup.com/h/d/ex/...ner/occasional

ljeagle · #15 01-10-2006, 05:19 AM

The park sounds like a cool ideal. I have been to a Cake and punch wedding b-4 and I thought it was just fine...

Marge129 · #16 01-10-2006, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by whiddle

What about this place? It says they have 25 facilities that are FREE to the public.
http://www.metroparks.org/index.html

Thanks... I never thought of them. Some of those parks are quite nice. I'll bring that option up to Jerry.

wembley · #17 01-10-2006, 04:08 PM

I really wanted to get married in a pretty park. We had decided that we weren't getting married in my parent's church and I wasn't converting to be Catholic to get married in his so we were without a building. I almost had him convinced on a part too, until we found out that you couldn't reserve the one we wanted until January and that made him very nervous. We found a good location but I still love the park idea.

I love that dress even more!

bebe · #18 01-10-2006, 04:34 PM

Well, it's a bummer that he wasn't totally behind your idea, but the good news is that you guys are both getting excited about getting married again!

Marge129 · #19 01-10-2006, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by bebe

you guys are both getting excited about getting married again!

He's always been excited. Right now I think he's still in disbelief. I don't think he knows that I do have every intention of marrying him. He's such a doofus. A few weeks ago he told me (jokingly) if we weren't married in 8-9 months he was taking back my ring for presentation at a later date.

He'd have to pry that sucker from my dead fingers! lol

TheaterDiva1 · #20 01-10-2006, 05:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Marge129

Thanks... I never thought of them. Some of those parks are quite nice. I'll bring that option up to Jerry.

Just make sure you have a backup plan in case it rains.

Marge129 · #21 01-10-2006, 05:12 PM

I brought up the park idea. His response was "eh."

Screw it... I've decided that we'll go to the court house.... whether he likes it or not.

TheaterDiva1 · #22 01-10-2006, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Marge129

I brought up the park idea. His response was "eh."

Screw it... I've decided that we'll go to the court house.... whether he likes it or not.

If he doesn't like your ideas and doesn't want to go to the courthouse either, I'm very curious as to what HIS ideas are (make him do some thinking for a change). It doesn't sound like either of you are thrilled about the CH - this is one area where you don't want to settle.

Marge129 · #23 01-10-2006, 06:08 PM

He HAS no ideas. Luckily we have plenty of time to think about it, KWIM?

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #24 01-10-2006, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Marge129

He's always been excited. Right now I think he's still in disbelief. I don't think he knows that I do have every intention of marrying him. He's such a doofus. A few weeks ago he told me (jokingly) if we weren't married in 8-9 months he was taking back my ring for presentation at a later date.

He'd have to pry that sucker from my dead fingers! lol

Margie, I'd just be cautious about going from not getting married to getting married based on ONE good weekend. I truly hope your relationship improves in the long run, and it's something you continue to work on together.

Marge129 · #25 01-10-2006, 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Marrying_the_Good_Husband

Margie, I'd just be cautious about going from not getting married to getting married based on ONE good weekend. I truly hope your relationship improves in the long run, and it's something you continue to work on together.

Hence why I'm not planning a wedding for next week. I'm not planning on getting married for at least 7 months.