Save the Date etiquette?

[devineka]

My fiancee and I sent out save the dates to all our out-of-town guests. After my aunt and uncle received it, they emailed us to let us know they won't be able to make it do to vacation plans. We're still planning on inviting their daughters. Do we still send my aunt and uncle an invitation? I don't want it to seem like we're looking for a gift.

Thanks!

[Sharon Naylor]

Great question! Yes, you still send them an invitation as a matter of inclusion (a very important etiquette concern), and it doesn't give the message of 'we want a gift.' It's more of a 'we want you to know we wish you could be there, and here's a keepsake for you.' Plus, if their vacation plans get changed, they're still invited! It's always better to send the invitation than not to send one -- which some people take as 'oh, we didn't get one because you don't expect a gift from us.' Strange how people react, isn't it? Don't worry about your invitation seeming like a plea for a gift...it's really just a nice extension of inclusion than anything else.

[feb-bride]

If you're worried about the invitation seeming like a gift plea, you can always include a handwritten note inside the invitation that states something to the effect of "If your vacation plans change, we'd love to have you join us at our wedding" or something like that.

[NovemberGal]

Originally Posted by feb-bride

If you're worried about the invitation seeming like a gift plea, you can always include a handwritten note inside the invitation that states something to the effect of "If your vacation plans change, we'd love to have you join us at our wedding" or something like that.