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[DavidsWife]

Just a quick question, My FMIL is cholked with my FSIL (Her Daughter) sorry to confuse. lol. Because She was married May 6, 06 and no-one has recieved their thank-you's yet! 4months? In what time frame should u be sending these out? I understand in depends on when u get wedding pictures back (If it has something to do with the invitation) But I thought they should be sent out within 30 days after the wedding?

Jayme

[munchkin]

Well supposedly you have a year, but I think that's way too long. I would say as soon as you get home from the honeymoon you should start writing them if you can, unless it depends on the photo. If you're sending them out with a photo, you start writing them as soon as you get said photo.

[Complicated Woman]

I don't know the ettiquette but I think they should be sent out AT LEAST within 2 months of recieving the gift.

[555Ann555]

I've read about the year deal too, but it seems a bit long to me Most people I know did it within 3 months or not at all.

[DavidsWife]

Originally Posted by 555Ann555

I've read about the year deal too, but it seems a bit long to me Most people I know did it within 3 months or not at all.

Or not at all? Ooooh, that would not go over well in my family. LOL, I sent out thank-you cards from the gifts we recieved for our engagment party the NEXT DAY! I got TONS of compliments for how quickly we got them out. I think it's important to send them out and let people know u appreciate and enjoy the gift!

[feb-bride]

That one-year thing is a MYTH. You don't have a year to send out thank-you notes, just as you don't have a year to send a gift.

I had all of my thank-you notes sent out within 30 days of the wedding.

[labeadel]

I think we had ours out within a month, but with the hurricane honeymoon, it might not have been just a month. Maybe two.

If I didn't get a thank you for a wedding gift, I might also assume the mail lost it. They seem to have lost several things of mine in the past couple of years.

[Julz518]

I don't know "ettiquete" on this - but I would say a month and 1/2, maybe 2 months if you take a long honeymoon... and I guess 3 months would be ok if you're waiting on pictures (though I would just send w/o the pics if it's taking that long).

4 months is definitely pushing it - particularly if people are startng to "notice" and comment on it to your FMIL! If you have the kind of relationship that you can, I would gently prod your FSIL to make her thank-yous a priority next time she is sitting in front of the TV! Even if she is waiting on pics, she can still get them all written out, or at least addressed, can't she? She definitely needs to get them out soon, b/c they will get lost in the upcoming holiday hubub.

It took me a week and 1/2 after my engagement party to send out thank-yous, and I felt HORRIBLE! Everytime I saw someone they would mention what a gerat time they had and how beautiful our house was... and all I could think of was that I hadn't sent out thank-yous yet!

[justnmary]

I was told it was two months.....

I do have a cousin that told me not to bother sending thank yous because people just throw them away anyway....that might be fine for my family, but Justin's is very old fashioned and would freak if they didn't recieve a thank you. (BTW...I'm still working on them. I'm to the point where I'm just going to sign the inside..."Thank you, Justin and Mary Krueger" and call it good....)

[DavidsWife]

Originally Posted by feb-bride

That one-year thing is a MYTH. You don't have a year to send out thank-you notes, just as you don't have a year to send a gift.

I had all of my thank-you notes sent out within 30 days of the wedding.

Good girl!

[ladedah]

I always thought the rule was 2 months from when you return from your honeymoon.....

It definetly sucks....but it's not all that difficult...I would just sit down and write 10-15 and a couple of days later do the same thing.....and I realized that after 150, I was pretty much writing the same thing.. , but what can you do?

I also buy alot of gifts off a couples registry and have them shipped directly to them, so if I don't receive a thank you in 4 months, I'm often a little miffed and will call them and say, "I hope all is well with you, but I wanted to make sure you received your gift as I had it mailed directly to you and have yet to receive a thank you to confirm you received it."

[fallbride]

I thought is was 2 months if you don't go on a Honeymoon and 3 if you do.

[maroki13]

We moved immediately after we got back from our honeymoon and I feel bad that ours aren't completed yet, even though tomorrow is only 1 month since the wedding. I grew up in a family where thank-you notes were a must and they were written within a week of Christmas....a habit I have yet to break.

DH's family, on the other hand, never writes thank you notes. He has only started writing them since he has been with me, so I'm sure his family is pleasantly surprised to be receiving thank yous for the wedding gifts they bought us.

[labeadel]

Wow, thank you notes for Christmas? I don't do that!!! Am I bad? Does anyone else do that?

[lisa82]

I've heard 2-3 months. Ours were all out in 6 days and we hand delivered almost all of them. Helps that almost all of our 70 guests live withing 20 min of us though

[AngelRoseFyre]

I don't know exact wedding ediquet, but I would say 2-3 months is plenty of time. That's what I am planning(if not sooner).

[justnmary]

Why is it, or is it just me, that the women tend to take on this job. I don't hear many responses of "my husband got our thank you's out within x amount of time" it's always, "I" or "We" it's never "He". Why do we take on that job? They can help!

[AngelRoseFyre]

I dunno, it's not that mine doesn't want to help, at least I don't think thats it, but he has bad hand writing, so I think I'll write them, then make him sign his name. He should help out more though, now that you bring it up. I feel like I am planning this whole wedding by myself most of the time, and he just agrees with whatever I decide on, it is getting really annoying.