Sharon Naylor shares her tips for planning second weddings.

If you’ve been down the aisle in the past, your wedding now might raise some etiquette questions for you. The world of weddings has changed so much lately, with etiquette for first weddings bending to allow for much more personal expression, fewer Have-To’s, Musts and Shoulds, and the same is true for second weddings! You probably already know that the old etiquette rule of ‘you can’t wear white for a second wedding’ is completely gone (and if you didn’t already know it…surprise!), but you probably wonder about things like invitations, showers, registries, and more. We have the answers for you here.

   We’ve been in the wedding business a long time, and we’ve heard all the wedding planning mistakes you can imagine. Usually, mistakes come from impulse buys, losing your cool and saying the wrong thing, not doing enough research before booking experts, not being organized, and more. But when it comes to second weddings, there are some mistakes that are unique to that category…mistakes you want to avoid for your second wedding. So let us save you some headaches and regrets by lining up the top missteps.

Planning a wedding when one of you has been married before can make for some pretty challenging times in your shared process. After all, one of you has some experience at this, while the other might be completely overwhelmed with all the details and questions and decisions and expenses.

The “encore bride” is in a different place than when she had her first wedding. They are confident, they have more money to spend, and they know what they want.  Their focus is on "simple elegance".

  You've played the role of bride before, so you think you know the drill. But as you begin drafting your to-do list, you find yourself slipping into unfamiliar territory. Is the taboo against wearing another gown of white just an old wives' tale? What's the protocol for getting children involved in the festivities? Do you really need the array of wedding gifts generally bestowed on first-time brides? Well, you can shelve your worries because according to JoAnn Gregoli, proprietor of the NY/NJ/CT tri-state-area-based Elegant Occasions, Inc., generally-accepted remarriage etiquette says that almost anything goes.